Archive for July, 2008

Parenting A Child with ADD/ADHD

July 2, 2008

By Michael Kiffmeyer


Someone once said that parenting was the toughest job in the world. Not only can it be tough, parenting is also one of the most important roles in the world. It is joyful, rewarding and wonderful, but it can also be overwhelming, stressful and exhausting.

For a parent who is trying to cope with a child that has ADD/ADHD it can more than overwhelming and can feel like you are smack dap in the middle of a tornado and you do not quite know if your situation will ever stop spinning out of control.

You want to do everything you can to help your child but quite frankly you are feeling so overwhelmed you do not know where to turn but you do realize as confused as you may be it is worse for child and they did your love and support to help guide them through this constant turmoil that they cannot understand.

Helping your child and trying to understand ADHD is extremely difficult if not at times near impossible but the love for your child makes you as a concerned caring parent want to do everything you can to help him to develop coping strategies, strength relationships, make him feel cared for and communicating with him and his teachers to help them along the way to a successful life.

Make no mistake is not only your child that this affliction – it touches all of your family members as well.  Siblings need to be taught that their brother or sister with ADD/ADHD is not trying to hateful or obnoxious it is simply an occurrence that they cannot control.  Meanwhile you feel like a ring master in a circus trying to control everything and more times than not it leave you with the feelings of being fed up and frustrated. Remember, try to stay positive and look for ways that you can have special moments with all of your children and family.

ADD/ADHD is one of life’s mysteries that cannot always be explained.  There are theories and some medical explanations but at the end of the day you are still faced with the fact that you child is afflicted and needs caring and nurturing to learn how to cope.  Books and lectures can help one become knowledgably aware but the family still needs to find a way to cope.  The child needs to find a way to become a part of society and not be discarded like they do not matter.  That is why you and the other members of the family must be the “rock” that helps people to understand and helps the afflicted child to cope.

Finally do not forget to take care of yourself, as well. All parents worry. All feel guilty about something related to their parenting at one time or another. Parents of ADHD kids may experience these feelings often. Try to give yourself a break. Get support. Find ways to rejuvenate.